I should be happy but I’m not
When life looks good on paper
On paper, things might look good.
You've ticked the boxes you were supposed to tick, achieved milestones that felt important or reached a point in life that you thought would feel different.
Yet you may still feel empty, dissatisfied or flat.
Perhaps you're going through the motions with work, social commitments and relationships while feeling disconnected from it all.
This can be confusing. Why aren't I happy? Why can't I just appreciate what I have? Is there something wrong with me?
What actually matters to you?
There can be an unspoken expectation that by this stage of life you should have certain things figured out: your career direction, relationships, finances and what you want your future to look like.
But achieving the things you thought you were supposed to want doesn't necessarily mean they will feel meaningful to you.
Sometimes a general sense of unhappiness can be a sign that your life isn't aligned with what genuinely matters to you.
At other times, there may be experiences or emotions from earlier in your life that you haven't had the space to properly process. You may have been able to keep moving forward, studying, working and achieving, while putting other parts of yourself aside.
Making sense of what's missing
Therapy gives you space to understand what's underneath your dissatisfaction rather than assuming you simply need to be more grateful or positive.
We can explore what you genuinely value and begin separating that from what you think you should value.
Where there are past difficulties or emotions that you're still carrying, we can also create space to understand and process them.
Together, we can look at the patterns of thinking and behaving that may be keeping you stuck and help you become clearer about the life, relationships and priorities that feel meaningful to you.
From there, we can find a way forward that feels more like your own.
Begin a conversation
If you’d like to learn more about working together, you’re welcome to book a free 15-minute call.
It’s a chance to tell me a little about what’s brought you to therapy, ask any questions you have and see whether I might be the right psychologist for you.
